How to teach a child to protect themselves from “toxins”

In today's world, where children and teenagers actively interact online and offline, it's so easy to encounter “toxins” that have a negative impact on the emotional state and self-esteem of others. They can be classmates, friends, family, and sometimes strangers online. “Toxicity” can come in many forms, and in this article we'll show you how to teach your child to recognize it and protect themselves.

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Recognizing “toxicity”: what is an unhealthy relationship

It is important to explain to the child from early childhood that healthy relationships are based on mutual respect, support and trust, while toxic relationships are based on manipulation, criticism, humiliation and control. Here's how you can do that:

Discuss signs of “toxic” behavior

Explain to your child that toxic people often criticize and belittle, insult and humiliate, even if “as a joke”, they ignore the feelings and needs of others, manipulate and try to control, create drama and provoke conflict. They can also spread gossip, be jealous, and try to undermine others' success, rather than taking responsibility for their actions.

Give real-life examples

Discuss situations from books, movies, and real life where “toxic” behavior occurs. Ask how the child feels watching these situations and how they would act in the victim's place.

Pay attention to his physical sensations

Explain that “toxic” relationships often cause negative physical feelings, such as anxiety, fear, fatigue, headache, and abdominal pain. Teach your child to pay attention to these body signals.

Emphasize the importance of healthy relationships

Talk about the benefits of a healthy relationship based on mutual support, respect and trust. Explain that people feel happy, confident, and successful in such relationships.

We set boundaries: we teach the child to say no and protect their space.

Setting boundaries is a key skill to protect yourself from “toxic” people. Children need to learn to say no and protect their personal space, both physical and emotional.

Explain personal boundaries

Talk about how each person has personal boundaries that determine how others can communicate with and treat them. Explain that violating boundaries causes discomfort and resentment.

Learn to say no

Train your child to say no to situations where they don't like things, when they feel uncomfortable, or when they're asked to do things that are contrary to their values. Use role-playing games so your child can practice rejecting.

Emphasize the importance of respecting your own feelings

Teach your child to respect their feelings and not to ignore them. Explain that if something causes discomfort or resentment, it is a signal that personal boundaries have been violated.

Teach you to identify consequences

Explain that if someone continues to violate personal boundaries, it is necessary to establish the consequences, for example, to stop communicating or seeking help from an adult.

Set an example with your behavior

Be an example for your child. Show that you don't let other people disrespect you.

We develop self-confidence: we strengthen self-esteem and self-confidence

A confident child is much less likely to be influenced by “toxic” people. Strengthening self-esteem and self-confidence is an important step towards protection from negative effects.

Reward achievements and efforts

Praise your child not only for the results, but also for the efforts made. Highlight his strengths and talents.

Help us deal with failures

Explain that failure is a normal part of life. Teach your child to learn from their mistakes and not be afraid to try again.

Maintain his independence

Let your child make decisions and make choices. Support his initiatives and help him develop his interests.

Learn to express thoughts and feelings

Encourage your child to express their thoughts and feelings openly. Teach him to talk about what bothers or pleases him.

Work on a positive self-image

Help your child develop a positive self-image. Teach him to focus on his strengths and accept his weaknesses.

Seeking help: teaching children not to be afraid to ask for support

It is important for the child to know that they are not alone and can always seek help from an adult.

Explain who to contact

Make a list of people your child can turn to for help, such as parents, teachers, school counselors, family and friends.

Ask for help — that's okay

Emphasize that asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. Explain to your child that adults are ready to help and support him in difficult times.

Discuss possible scenarios

Discuss with your child how he can ask for help, for example, saying: “I need your help because...”, “I feel uncomfortable when...”, “I'm offended, can you help me?”

Be ready to listen and support

Create an atmosphere of trust and openness so that the child feels comfortable talking about their problems. Listen to him carefully and offer your help.