Shyness can largely limit children's full life and development. The anxiety that a child feels when he has to meet new people, be “in sight” or perform on stage makes life quite difficult and reduces the quality of life.
Why is being shy bad?
A shy child practices less social interaction skills, participates less in interesting activities, and does not have many friends. In addition, shyness lowers self-esteem and increases negative feelings such as loneliness and the feeling of uselessness. Because of the fear of judgment, the child is unable to reach his full potential.
If childhood shyness is not managed, a child can grow into a shy adult.
This article will tell you how parents can help children cope with shyness.
The child is shy... What is the reason?
There are various reasons that can make a child “shy”. These may include both hereditary and acquired factors: genetics, increased emotional sensitivity, family relationships, excessive care, lack of social interaction, frequent exposure to criticism, and fears of failure.
If a child is shy in the company of peers or other people, and then blames himself for being shy, the situation can turn into a vicious circle from which it is very difficult to get out. Therefore, parents should think about how to help their child cope with social shyness.
How to help a little “shy girl”?
Parents are not always aware of the huge role they play in a child's life. Family attitudes are crucial in shaping children's self-esteem and vision of themselves (whether I'm meaningful and loved).
What should you do in the case of a “shy person”, and what should you never do? Here are a few simple guidelines:
#1 Remove labels
Don't label your child “shy” and don't let others say they're shy. Don't always impose your own projections on him—there is a risk that they will stay with him forever, but you don't want that, right?
#2 No to criticism and laughter
Don't criticize or laugh at your child when he is shy.
Be his support and understanding. Empathize with the child and show that you are always by his side.
#3 Let's talk!
Encourage your child to share with you the reasons for their shyness. If the child talks about his fear, it will be easier for him to cope with a similar situation next time.
#4 An example from your life
Have you ever been shy about something? Share examples from your life with your child! Children often think parents are perfect. But if you admit that similar moments happen to you, it will be easier for the child to accept their own shyness.
#5 Share your experience
Tell your child how you've learned to overcome your own shyness. Your example will undoubtedly motivate and inspire the “shy girl” to heroic deeds!
#6 Talk!
Show your child that talking to strangers is easy. Talk to passers-by, go to new places together and meet new people — let the child see that no one wants to offend anyone, and most often people around are very friendly.
#7 Praise your child
Always focus your child's attention on situations where he has managed to cope with shyness and, for example, meet a new friend. Praise your child and encourage him to be brave.
#8 Set goals
Discuss the various situations that the child will face in the near future and ask him how he would like to behave in them. Consider steps to achieve your goal. Take your time and start small. Perhaps, at a children's party, the child will be able to approach someone himself and get to know him. This is going to be a small victory! You can note any of your child's achievements in a success diary so that they stay in their memory and inspire them to continue like this.
We sincerely wish you success!
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